If we have no peace…

If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.
~ Mother Teresa

 

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When you hold your vision…

When you hold your vision in your awareness, you are focused on what’s in front of you instead of what’s behind you. You are focused on what you can do, not what you didn’t do. A warrior is excited and passionate as she creates the future she most desires.

~ Debbie Ford, “The Shadow Effect”

 

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The biggest disease…

Tarot Card of the Month: September 2012

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We need to find…

We need to find God, and he cannot be found in noise and restlessness. God is the friend of silence. See how nature – trees, flowers, grass- grows in silence; see the stars, the moon and the sun, how they move in silence… We need silence to be able to touch souls.

~ Mother Teresa

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4 Guidelines to Break the Co-Dependency Cycle for Good

Surround yourself only with those who will take you higher!  Life is already filled with those who will bring you down.

You know, I’ll admit the first few times I saw this quote I thought to myself “Eh, that’s such a fine line because people might think that a person is choosing not to associate with another out of their ego or pride.  We are all equal, so why should I ever recommend this to anyone?  On the surface it can appear so ego-based.”

There’s a fine line here and it can easily be misinterpreted.  Truly, we are, have been, and always will be equals at a soul level.  On the spiritual plane we are same, but the trick is that when we are in human form, yes there is a difference.  Why?  Because we all have a choice as to how we should live our lives.  Part of our reason for living is to make choices so that we can become better.  The truth is that you are the only person responsible for your own happiness and in order to do that you have to surround yourself with people that are going to allow you to grow.  By expecting someone else to make you happy or feeling a need to make others happy it is an underlying sign of co-dependency, which will always be self-defeating in the grand scheme of things.  If you don’t break the cycle, you will continue to live in this cycle of co-dependency, lack of boundaries, and continue to repress your inner guide.

So how can you break the cycle and set good boundaries for yourself?

1.  Surround yourself with those who are truly working to become better.  This may be a group of your interest.  This could be a yoga class, meditation group, people you meet at your college or university, or even some on a spiritual forum.  This could perhaps be people you have met in passing that are successful in their work who you felt could truly help you.  Now, this is not to say that ALL spiritual-related groups are going to be positive just because they are “spiritual” — you have to trust your intuition on this one as to whether the personalities there are truly good for you or not.

2.  Set boundaries with those who expect you to “cure their boredom”, “entertain them”, or  “make them happy”.  Ultimately, they are only going to drain your energy and keep you in this stagnant cycle.  Break the cycle and set the boundary.  If this is a family member or an old friend then keep in mind that this DOES NOT mean that you do not love this person.  In fact, the fact that you are setting the boundary shows that you do truly love them — allowing them to continue the cycle only continues to hurt them just as much as you are hurting yourself.  This can be tricky with those who you are related to or live nearby, but IT IS POSSIBLE — you just have to be persistent!

3.  Don’t allow yourself to be someone’s “dumping ground” for their problems.  This is not to say that you can’t give advice, support, or help anyone out.  What it means is that you have to set your boundary so that this person isn’t “saturating you” with their problems.  It is NOT okay for you to be a recipient of such negative energy and, if you do truly love this person, you will set the boundary so they can learn the difference.  Again, this is not to say that you can’t help people, but we all have to remember that in order to successfully help people we also have to know where to draw the line between “I can help you up to here, but the rest is all you”.

4.  Finally, trust your intuition with where to drawn the line 100%.  If you get the sense that this person might become defensive, then trust it 100% and follow proper actions to avoid any potential issues.  If you get the vibe that this person may be rather “needy” toward you, then trust your gut and set you boundary that you are not there to make them happy.  At the end of the day, trusting your intuition is honestly the single most effective way at knowing which people are good for you and your evolution and which are not.  Not only that, but your intuition will also tell you how to perfectly handle the situation if you receive any opposition from a person.  Its a really good test to see how intuitively in-touch you truly are if you have someone yelling at you and you are simply not effected at all — the negative energy just seems to repel off of you.

My final  rule of thumb is this:  If the person you are hanging out with is not providing you with a fulfillment of growth, then you need to look within yourself for guidance and perhaps go elsewhere.

For those of us (which are actually most of us) who are living on this co-dependency cycle this may feel like a  bit of “tough love”, but I can assure that this is in fact the only true way that genuine love exists in this world.

 

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In spite of everything…

“In spite of everything I still believe that people are really good at heart. I simply can’t build up my hopes on a foundation consisting of confusion, misery and death.” ~ Anne Frank

“Whatever relationships you have attracted in your life…”

Peace

 

Photo of the A-bomb dome in Peace Park of Hiroshima, Japan.

An Article to Distinguish Lust vs. Love

I found an article today on BoldSky that discusses the difference between lust vs. love.  It goes into a bit of detail about how one can be deciphered by the other and how lust is rooted in ignorance or anger.

Personally, I feel that this can be quite a complex subject and I’m still attempting to sort out how the line (that can be very fine) can be drawn.  Once I sort thoughts I bit more I may create my own post, but in the mean time you can read this article and provide your own thoughts and comments if you wish: How To Drop Lust and Nurture Love .